Just so you all know.......

Having observed two of my mom's four divorces and survived one myself, divorce isn't pretty regardless of gender. Mom's lastest ex-husband's being a holy pain in her ass over a house which he has no stake in (was bought with money she had prior to the marriage) and because of all the legal run-arounds she's having to delay coming out to see Maddy until at least after the elections. He's demanding some kind of alimony from Mom, nevermind she was the sole breadwinner in the relationship for the last two years, has been working two jobs, has a son in Iraq and me with my high-risk pregnancy / preemie. Mom has understandably sworn off marriage.

 

T, not to down play your moms experience in the least. I am truly sorry she was involved with such a deadbeat loser. But this is exactly the same exact type of treatment many men have to endure after a divorce. I wish I had time to share the story of one of my brother inlaws right now. But basically he is completely screwed because my wifes sister is a royal lazy selfish bitch. And because he was foolish enough to marry her 10 years ago. He will be paying for it for the rest of his life while she sits on her fat ass.

Please don't take that the wrong way, neither situation is right.

 

I am dealing with what your brother is dealing with Cam... it sucks.. im not married, but my son is invovled... she wont let me see him, yet im shelling out 1100 bucks a month to hear in child support, and I finally dropped 3k on my retainer for my lawyer to get joint custody and vistation...


sucks no matter what

Hopefully i can meet you soon erik

 

No offense taken, its just sad how people you think the world of can turn around and screw you out of everything. And I know its usually the woman...they make the rest of us look bad and teach their daughters that that is appropriate behavior. :chair:

 

OH it def sucks.. >I feel your pain... it happens to men and women..... Just seems like you hear fucked up stories like this and it really sucks.... bad

 

Holy shit Erik, Im so sorry my friend.

Im shocked!

 

Really sorry to hear Erik. Keep your head up.

 

Been martyred .....I mean married 3 times and divorced 2 times....If I ever get married again someone please shoot me in the face with a Bazooka

 

I would have to agree with that one Tam even though it drives me crazy. To me a divorce needs to be as far as possible. Me, I got nothing but furniture out of my divorce. no alomony or anything. I can live my life having my ex pay for what i need. If im not with u ur not giving me money. IMO

 

Wow all I can say is hang in there! Your also right...your ole Maggie is in GOOD hands!

 

Hope everything works out bud.

 

Damn Erik! That's some great news bro. Does that mean you're going to stay and live in that area?

 

damnit man why cant you live in Northern CA I would have a blower dfor you to install man

 

Everyone has a reason for doing what they do...although i dont know you i'm sure you did too...like others on here been there done that.......it might take some time but i'm positive it will work out and you will be happier in the end......keep your head up and a smile on your face......it pisses em off...lol

 

I don't know you that well Erik, but I'm sorry for this time in your life. I guarantee it will make you stronger though pal......best wishes.
Chase

 

Sometimes the most important thing in the world is ones own happiness. Its not easy to find but once you do its a wonderful feeling. Good luck on your search.

 

Good luck Erik...if you are ever out in the upper Midwest...let me know.

Keith