"Sperm donor" betrayed by lesbian couple he helped

Mains · Dec 6, 2007 at 2:42 PM

[FONT=&quot]Sperm Donor Betrayed by Lesbian Couple He Aided[/FONT]

[FONT=&quot]A man who was kind enough to donate his sperm to a lesbian couple has now--18 years later--been stabbed in the back and hit up for child support. According to the [FONT=&quot]New York Post[/FONT]:[/FONT]

[FONT=&quot]"A sperm donor who sent gifts signed 'Dad' to his biological son has been slapped with a child-support order, 18 years after helping his friend get pregnant.[/FONT]

[FONT=&quot]"The Nassau County man donated his sperm to a work colleague, and included his name on the child's birth certificate, saying it would give the boy an identity, courts documents revealed.[/FONT]

[FONT=&quot]"He then blurred the lines between donor and full-time father by sending money, presents and cards signed 'Dad' and 'Daddy,' and having phone chats with the now college-bound teen.[/FONT]

[FONT=&quot]"But the man's goodwill backfired: A court ruling says he is now liable for financial support of the 18-year-old, who lives with his mother in Oregon.
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[FONT=&quot]"'It really is no good deed goes unpunished,' said the man's lawyer, Deborah Kelly of Potrush and Daab in Garden City...[/FONT]
[FONT=&quot]"'He was assured that he would have no responsibility on his part and of course 18 years has elapsed where there hasn't been responsibility,' she said.[/FONT]
[FONT=&quot]"'He did not anticipate this would happen now, when the child is almost an adult, that the mother would come forward for child support.'[/FONT]

[FONT=&quot]"She said her client had requested a DNA test, 'because we have no concrete evidence he is the father.'[/FONT]

[FONT=&quot]"Nassau County Family Court judge Ellen Greenberg ruled Nov. 16 against a paternity test, saying it would have a traumatic effect on the child.[/FONT]

[FONT=&quot]"The child signed an affidavit stating that he has 'never known anyone other than [the man] to be his father,' according to court documents.[/FONT]

[FONT=&quot]"If payments were to go ahead, the child support would be determined based on the mother's earning capacity; the reported income of her partner, who is also a doctor; and the father's income...

"The father said he had contact with the child from his birth until 1993, when the lesbian couple and his son moved to Oregon, according to court documents. From then the contact dropped to seven phone calls in the past 15 years and one meeting for a few hours three years ago."[/FONT]

[FONT=&quot]A few points:[/FONT]

[FONT=&quot]1) Incredibly, the court won't even allow him to have a DNA test to confirm that he really is the father.[/FONT]

[FONT=&quot]2) According to the [FONT=&quot]Post[/FONT], "The child signed an affidavit stating that he has "never known anyone other than [the man] to be his father." One wonders what pressure his mother may have put on him to sign this and be a part of this scam.[/FONT]

[FONT=&quot]3) The boy is 18--he's no longer a child, and nobody should be required to pay child support for him. This is a court-ordered double-standard--as a married father, my wife and I are not legally required to give my son a dime when he's 18.[/FONT]

[FONT=&quot]4) The kicker is "If payments were to go ahead, the child support would be determined based on the mother's earning capacity; the reported income of her partner, who is also a doctor; and the father's income." So it's not enough for the biological mother to have her own income and be supported by her lesbian partner, who is also a doctor--she needs to suck money out of yet [FONT=&quot]another[/FONT] person to pay for this.[/FONT]

[FONT=&quot]I'm sure in any other aspect, the biological mother would fiercely assert that her lesbian partner fills the second parent/parental role for the boy, and that he doesn't need nor ever did need a father. Yet somehow when it comes to child support, her lesbian partner means nothing, and she's got to go get money from a man.[/FONT]
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um wow

Stretch · Dec 6, 2007 at 2:43 PM

That's messed up! 18 years of back pay would be pretty costly!

StevoSRT · Dec 6, 2007 at 2:44 PM

if i was a judge...i'd have some words for someone so dumb that they would actually bring this to my court haha

Stretch · Dec 6, 2007 at 2:45 PM

StevoSRT said: ↑

if i was a judge...i'd have some words for someone so dumb that they would actually bring this to my court haha
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They should have a law that the judge should be able to slap some of the people who bring stupid crap into the courts and tie them up with BS!

StevoSRT · Dec 6, 2007 at 2:46 PM

Stretch said: ↑

They should have a law that the judge should be able to slap some of the people who bring stupid crap into the courts and tie them up with BS!
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i would vote for that law to pass hahaha...that and the people who sue for spilling hot coffee on the ball area...

Stretch · Dec 6, 2007 at 2:47 PM

StevoSRT said: ↑

i would vote for that law to pass hahaha...that and the people who sue for spilling hot coffee on the ball area...
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yep... and she didn't even have any! Lol!

StevoSRT · Dec 6, 2007 at 2:48 PM

Stretch said: ↑

yep... and she didn't even have any! Lol!
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hahahaha i didnt know it was a girl...its people like this that is the reason you have stupid warning labels on EVERYTHING

Stretch · Dec 6, 2007 at 2:49 PM

StevoSRT said: ↑

hahahaha i didnt know it was a girl...its people like this that is the reason you have stupid warning labels on EVERYTHING
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Yep... you can make a whole new thread on just stupid warning labels!
Caution: Don't eat the rat poison!

StevoSRT · Dec 6, 2007 at 2:51 PM

Stretch said: ↑

Yep... you can make a whole new thread on just stupid warning labels!
Caution: Don't eat the rat poison!
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oh i know...i just dont know how the sperm donor thing could have gotten past any SORTA smart judge...

diegochrysler · Dec 6, 2007 at 2:51 PM

StevoSRT said: ↑

hahahaha i didnt know it was a girl...its people like this that is the reason you have stupid warning labels on EVERYTHING
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I love the warnings on the bathroom towel dispensor:

DO NOT ATTEMPT TO HANG FROM THIS!

Stretch · Dec 6, 2007 at 2:52 PM

diegochrysler said: ↑

I love the warnings on the bathroom towel dispensor:

DO NOT ATTEMPT TO HANG FROM THIS!
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Personal mishap there Brudda?

StevoSRT · Dec 6, 2007 at 2:54 PM

diegochrysler said: ↑

I love the warnings on the bathroom towel dispensor:

DO NOT ATTEMPT TO HANG FROM THIS!
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hahah...if you had to put a warning on things that explains every way you can be hurt....you'd just have one big warning label haha

Stretch · Dec 6, 2007 at 2:55 PM

Wonder if they have a warning on the warning lable... caution... can cause paper cuts!

StevoSRT · Dec 6, 2007 at 2:59 PM

Stretch said: ↑

Wonder if they have a warning on the warning lable... caution... can cause paper cuts!
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there should be one warning label on everything...

Warning: Not to be used in any way by dumbasses hahahaha

ChargerGirl · Dec 6, 2007 at 3:10 PM

If the guy had a brain, he would've drawn up some kind of contract, that the "donation" was a one-time transaction. They then could have decided what if any relationship he would have had with the child. Last, this sounds like the mom is hard up and looking for any excuse to get money for nothing. Really really sad that there's a child/person in the middle of this nonsense.

StevoSRT · Dec 6, 2007 at 3:13 PM

ChargerGirl said: ↑

If the guy had a brain, he would've drawn up some kind of contract, that the "donation" was a one-time transaction. They then could have decided what if any relationship he would have had with the child. Last, this sounds like the mom is hard up and looking for any excuse to get money for nothing. Really really sad that there's a child/person in the middle of this nonsense.
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i'd say your right on there tam...lucky for the kid hes 18 years old and not like 10...an 18 year old in college can at least get away and not deal with the crapstorm that will be that fight...

and if hes 18...would the child support he owes be for the first 18 years?...and how much would he have to pay? haha

Raland · Dec 6, 2007 at 3:28 PM

Stretch said: ↑

They should have a law that the judge should be able to slap some of the people who bring stupid crap into the courts and tie them up with BS!
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I'd let them show up, then make the stupid people PAY for the court cost. Definitely some jacked up BS! oop:

1bad4dr · Dec 6, 2007 at 3:34 PM

Stretch said: ↑

Yep... you can make a whole new thread on just stupid warning labels!
Caution: Don't eat the rat poison!
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dahaha My favorite: Caution, contents in cup (Coffee) may be hot... dahahahahahahaha No Shit, Coffee is hot? WOW I never knew this.

StevoSRT · Dec 6, 2007 at 3:37 PM

1bad4dr said: ↑

dahaha My favorite: Caution, contents in cup (Coffee) may be hot... dahahahahahahaha No Shit, Coffee is hot? WOW I never knew this.
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well at least one person felt it necessary to have that on there...that person can drive a car capable of killing someone...scary isnt it?

ChargerGirl · Dec 6, 2007 at 3:43 PM

And honestly, if I were to ever go the Lesbian, who needs men route, I'd be too damned proud or stubborn to stoop to taking money from a man, rather than waiting eighteen years to sue for child support, what a bitch!

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